Social Interaction part V - Be a Leader II

Principle 4: No One Likes to take Orders:

Earlier last week, a good friend had a midterm exam but was not prepared at all. He was complaining about the fact that he is going to fail but he also had to finish up another project for his job. I tried to ease up the tension by making some jokes and try to tell him that he could prioritize the tasks and so manage them more efficiently. I figured that he did not want to get orders or annoying suggestion for what he should do, so I tried to sway him to recognize the efficiency in prioritizing his tasks, even though the project had to suffer from that decision. He had the feeling that he was now on top of his game and managed to utilize his remaining resources to do well in his midterm, instead of favoring his job over school.



Principle 5: Let the Other Person Save Face:

Friday night, I was engaged in a conversation with couple of people. Some of them were seniors, so the nature of the conversation was based on respectful responses. The topic, however; was the tragic shooting in the English learning center for immigrants in Upstate NY (the American Civic Association), were 13 people died. I already had heard about it on npr, and the reporter said that it was to assume that the suspect was a man from Vietnamese decant but were still waiting for ID conformation. However, one of the men started to tell the others about the incident and made some serious mistakes. Thus, I recognized it as an opportunity and friendly intervened. I just mentioned how sad it is and how terrible the survivors and loved ones of those who died must feel. After I had caught their attention, I told them that the suspect was speculated to be an immigrant himself and committed this monstrous act because of the stigmas he experienced as an immigrant. By doing so the conversation was redirected and the man did not have to lose his face in-front of all the people.

Revised - Be a Leader

The lesson on how to be a good leader, discussed in part 4 -chapter 4- of HTWFAIP, resonated with the example set by the former professional soccer player Zinedin Zidian. He always made sure that his team-mates had confidence and were assured by the team. When one player made a mistake that resulted in a goal for the opposing team, Zizu always passes the ball to that particular player to build up his confidence.

Therefore, I tried a technique which was combined from both methods to positively influence my sister into monitoring her driving with attention.

The situation was that I and my sister were driving down to Virginia, and she was distracted and speeding, and I thought this is a good situation for social interaction - part IV. Thus, I started a conversation about the $1000 fee due if Virginia highway patrol charges you with speeding or other offenses. But I covered it up with me using my phone and passively direct the context to drivers on the phone, and emphasized how dangerous it is with all the distraction. She quickly realized that she was lacking concentration on the road and adjusted her driving. I indirectly pointed her attention to her mistake without pointing fingers and calling it out, and she responded positively to it.

Revised - Start Up Financiers

The first financier I identified is;

Name: Michael Morizt
Type: Venture Capitalist
Organization: Venture Capital Fund - Sequoia Capital
Focus/Industry: Software and Service Investments
email: moritz@sequoiacap.com
Website link: http://www.sequoiacap.com/people/michael-moritz/



The second investor I identified is a bank;

Name: Erika Clore
Type: VP Business Development Manager
Organization: Sandy Spring Bank
Focus/Industry: Small Business Loans
email: eclore@sandyspringbank.com
Website: www.sandyspringbank.com




I actually have contacted both financiers to ensure that they are both within my industry.

Be a Leader, Social Interaction - part IV

Part IV of HTWFAIP, was an interesting insight in how to be a good leader. When I was reading it, I tried to find a real case and Zinedin Zidan,a French soccer legend, was the only person that came me to mind.

Since I always liked how Zizu did his thing, I had confidence that I can be successful applying this method. I was driving with my sister down to Virginia and she was distracted and speeding, and I thought this is a good situation for social interaction - part IV. Thus, I started a conversation about the $1000 fee due if Virginia highway patrol charges you with speeding or other offenses. But I covered it up with me using my phone and passively direct the context to drivers on the phone, and emphasized how dangerous it is with all the distraction. She quickly realized that she was lacking concentration on the road and adjusted her driving. I indirectly pointed her attention to her mistake without pointing fingers and calling it out, and she responded positively.

Start-Up Financiers

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Revised - Enterprise Values

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