Revised - Be a Leader

The lesson on how to be a good leader, discussed in part 4 -chapter 4- of HTWFAIP, resonated with the example set by the former professional soccer player Zinedin Zidian. When one player made a mistake that resulted in a goal for the opposing team, Zizu always played the ball first to that particular player to build up his confidence. He always tried to make sure that his team-mates had confidence in their skills, despite frequent failures of individual players.

Therefore, I tried a technique which was combined from both methods to positively influence my sister into monitoring her driving with attention.

The situation was that I and my sister were driving down to Virginia, and she was distracted and speeding, and I thought this is a good situation for social interaction - part IV. Thus, I started a conversation about the $1000 fee due if Virginia highway patrol charges you with speeding or other offenses. But I covered it up with me using my phone and passively direct the context to drivers on the phone, and emphasized how dangerous it is with all the distraction. She quickly realized that she was lacking concentration on the road and adjusted her driving. I indirectly pointed her attention to her mistake without pointing fingers and calling it out, and she responded positively to it.